When it comes to phone sex, there is no doubt that men and women take different approaches. Although men are expected to initiate the conversation, it is also up to the woman to cue the man to let him know she is in by following along and responding to his advances, making him feel secured and not awkward. To really enjoy phone sex, whether with a partner, a friend or a stranger on a chatline, you will have to release your inhibitions and get comfortable sharing your hot and lusty desires.
Men are expected to be more aggressive and forthright when compared to girls when it comes to phone sex. Most girls will wait for the guy to make the first sexual references before they start actively participating and pleasing themselves. Most phone sex numbers are full of men, and not enough women. That’s because girls don’t get aroused as easy or as fast as guys do. While men can have sex with a hole in the wall, women have a much more emotional sexual behavior. It is up to you to make her feel safe and wanted. Once she’s opened up to you, arouse her by stimulating her imagination with your eloquence and masculinity.
You should always start the session with some clean small-talk where you can safely probe her using innocent enough questions that will reveal if she is game for phone sex. Getting good at probing and reading a woman’s signals to determine if she is ready is a skill that can be acquired with practice (and a little bit of rejection). As soon as you have enough evidence she wants to engage in phone sex, you should make your move; take too long and she will grow impatient and kill the mood. Talking dirty to a woman who is not ready for phone sex could lead to rejection and leave you feeling ridiculed. So be patient; start clean and slowly escalate by introducing some sexual tension before getting down and dirty.
Things To Say To Break The Ice
Since it is up to the guy to set the stage, here are few lines that could literally set the stage on fire:
“I wish you were here” This is another wonderful sentence which could certainly set the ball rolling in the true sense of the term. This will make the man on the other end close his eyes and think about the woman and imagine as to what could be running through her mind and body. This will well and truly make the man hot in the real sense of the term.
“What are you wearing?” This is just a sort of a testing the waters. This should enable the man to find out as to what is running in the mind of girl. If she is horny and hot it is quite likely that she will probe deeper and would also like the man to “probe deeper” in the real sense of the term.
“Guess what I am wearing?” This is a great way to arouse lot of sexual interest on the other side. With this the girl could be hitting two birds in one stone. On the one hand the girl could be revealing the skimpy outfit that she might be wearing and also that the man could imagine that he is just one or two dresses away from seeing and touching what he actually wants to.
Things To Say During Phone Sex
“Where do you like to be touched?” This is perhaps probing a bit deeper and will set the woman on the other side literally on fire. It will make her crazy and in most of the cases it will make them weak on the knees and perhaps even wet all over the place. However, this has to be done carefully and only when one has become reasonably familiar with the girl and when the ice has been well and truly broken.
“What would you like to do to me?” This is another wonderful sentence which will well and truly turn the tide in favor of the boy or man. Women at this stage will most certainly be reaching a stage uncontrolled lust and desire or perhaps even could have had a couple of orgasms. In fact many women would start giving out very hot and provocative oral expressions. This will also go a long way in enabling the man to become totally ready for the act for all points of view.
“I am imagining that you are removing whatever little clothes you are wearing”. This will set the stage and make things really hot for the girl. The man would do better if he could utter the above sentence in a hoarse voice and include some sound like “ahhhhhhhhhh” “ohhhhhhhh” “oh my god” and so on.
“Are you ready? I am totally ready” This could be another scud missile which could tear open the man’s body and heart. Even if the man is not ready for the act he certainly will be ready and would be squirming in his bed or seat for sure. When one adds the second sentence “I am totally ready” in most of the cases it is a done deal. The man will fall for the girl and the girl can certain that he will be expecting the call from the girl like mad and will go crazy if the call does not come through or the gal is not reachable or not responding.
At the end of the day there is no denying the fact that knowing what to say during phone sex is an art more than a science. Each conversation will flow differently. The key is to be able to get rid of your inhibitions and to find out the hot button and press it. This might take some time but when done properly it will yield fantastic results.
